Thursday, April 10
apr 10th, 08these few days were really boring. so had a lil fun taking pics with roomate in room. notice that we're actually wearing the same shirts, but wif different designs? i bought it for her. =) we'll be leaving this room soon, kinda reluctant. was quite unhappy with this room when we first moved in cos it is really far from out cafe. however, we're used to it now that we wish we can get back this room next sem though it's quite impossible. they are turning this block into guests hostels. for the international china students i guess.
our bathroom is the part we're gonna miss the most. imagine, the whole bathroom belongs only to both of us. we don have to share or queue up to bathe or whatever. i hav to admit that it feels really comfy inside this bathroom. hehe. well, u've seen the pics of my bathroom i posted last sem. hehe. it's really grand u know. aha... even better than hotels' bathrooms.
can see the bed behind us? it's my bed. with mosquitoes net. and even the electrical mosquitoes racquet. aha. too many mosquitoes kacau-ing me everynight. i had to wear gloves + socks everynight until now. nowadays mosquitoes are really crazy la. anyway, that's not the main topic here. hehe.
the upper pic was taken recently. few days ago. the lower pic was taken during first year when i was staying in the previous hostel room. so much difference uh ? hehe. the more spacious it is, the more sampah we can keep. =D
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Wednesday, April 9
apr 9th, 08Dwell with Understanding
my wife, marlene n i had been married for 30 years, n have learned to appreciate each other's unique qualities. but even after all these years she still surprised me from time to time. recently, she reacted to a news report in a way that was opposite to what i expected. i told her, 'wow, that shocks me. i never would have thought u would land there on this issue.' her response? 'your job is to figure me out, n my job is to keep you guessing!' the responsibility to understand your spouse is wat keeps married life interesting n stretching.
this is an ancient challenge. peter wrote: 'husbands, likewise dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, n as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. without the commitment to understanding his spouse, a husband is not capable of doing what comes next - honoring her. ( picked frm our daily bread )
many good men are becoming extinct. or is it men are facing extinction instead? aha.. dono. suddenly popped into my head. then came all these funny questions n recalling those relationship problems i've heard of n seen before.
i do notice one funny fact. it's the fact that there are some guys out there who would prefer to hav older girlfrens. and i've asked two for the reasons. all they could tell me was they felt safe being with an older girl. cos the girl is more mature than he is and this enables her to take care of him. take care of him instead of him taking care of her? what is wrong with the nature cycle of this world? aha... is the sun rising from the west nowadays ? oh dear ... well, that's a question to ponder. =/
the next issue, why are some people so desperate for a relationship that they can just pair up with anyone after knowing the other partner for just like... 2 or 3 months ? to me, it definitely doesnt make any sense. perhaps they are looking for fun, n not serious relationships. some would say, just try around with a few guys, n then only will u know which or what type of guys suit urself the most.
well, in my opinion, i dont agree. in the end, ur just gonna hurt somebody. it doesnt take a month or two to know a person. it can take up to years or maybe a lifetime to even understand someone. understanding a person isnt simple. cos people still change from time to time. even the birds change their songs as the seasons changes. especially when there are so many kinds of funnily, weirdly n crazily characters we meet in the society.
seriously, once is enough. people say, once bitten twice shy. i can easily have a crush on some guys... but i cant possibly like them for who they are without knowing or understanding them personally. it will be better if we know a person's flaws n knowing that we can actually tolerate with those flaws before we dive deeper. therefore, never rush.
i have to say, after marriage, one has to live with his/her partner for ... 50 or 60 years. well, unless, of course, ur open about divorce n neglecting the kids. this isnt something fun to play with. hehe.
after all this elaboration, i do admit that there is a point one has to accept.
no one is perfect in this world. haha. reminds me of agnes's blog - where the world is perfect but im not. =)
yea, so, i guess, with good communications, we can understand our partner better. and understanding leads to better tolerations between both parties. one cant just count on love itself to survive. but honestly, to love is to sacrifice. so, at the end of the day, i thk the most crucial part here is tolerations.
anyway, hehe... do i sound like im writing an essay ? haha... i gotta be crazy man tonight........ just feel like talking. but no one is free to listen. so blah....all out here. we are free to blog about anything n everything, arent we ? =D and im not thinking about marriage here la.
by the way, no offence about guys. it's an open discussion.
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Friday, April 4
april 4th, 08the kindness of stranger
while i was taking a flight to Indonesia, for a Bible conference, the flight attendants brought meal service. I had just eaten in the Singapore airport, so i declined, asking only for a soft drink. The Indonesian man next to me, a stranger, was visibly concerned.
The man asked if i felt okay, n i assured him i was fine. he then asked if perhaps the meal didnt appeal to me, i responded that i wasnt hungry. he then surprised me by offering his own meal to me, thinking that if i tried it, i might actually enjoy it.
it was done in such a gentle n genuine way that it was obviously an expression of his concern for my welfare. in a sefl-centered world where we are conditioned to look out for our own interests above n beyond all else, such kindness was unexpected. the man's simple gesture showed a different kind of heart and a different set of values.
in Hebrews 13:2, we read, 'do not forget to entertain strangers, for by doing some unwittingly entertained angels.' wat better way to represent christ that n with kindness-even to strangers. kindness is one gift anyone can give.
i was reading 'our daily bread' book. then found this message. im still wide awake, so decided to write this message as a post. had a severe headache after class just now n slept til 9.20pm after dinner. aih.
last year, there was once i had to board a really packed ukm bus. it was so damn packed that i had to stand at the stairs by the door. n i was holding my orange umbrella + my purple file. n i couldnt grab hold of anything for safety since the door was not closed. then a malay girl pat me on my shoulder frm behind. she then volunteered to hold my file for me. oh dear, i was so touched by her kind thoughts for my safety. there were so many other students beside me, but none of them actually cared. too bad i didnt get the opportunity to know her.
in this world we 're living today, it feels so much happier when u know there are still kind people around who still have the heart to care for others. =D
april 8 th, 08
today i met another kind stranger. haha. he's a really good man. im still owing university rm 500 for my kolej activities. so, i hav to send in a report of our programme's expenses to the jabatan bendahari in order to clear off my rm 500 frm my hutang pelajar. since the programme, i kept altering the report due to some 'stupid reasons'. i dare not elaborate much on that here, for now. i was given a dateline of one month to send in the report. for that stupid reasons, i ve been late for 3 weeks. that only leaves me 1 more week.
after finally getting the report done, i sent it in. and im really thankful i met this really really nice guy, named encik Zailan. he knows what im worried about. after a week of processing my report, i called him up to check if there was any mistakes that i might need to alter cos im leaving for home soon.
he still remember me. hehe. guess ive been to his office for too many times. he told me that he needs to wait for the sponsorship cheque to clear first before he could do anything. but he assured me everything will be fine. that very same day, he called me up to tell me he had already settled everything for me. i only need to send in another letter of confirmation for the cheque to be banked in into my kolej account.
u know la, some clerks don bother much bout ur business. they just do their work according to what is given n wont take a lil more efforts to help settle things faster. cos some procedures are real slow n it takes 1 to 2 weeks time. today, i went to see him again, to pass him the letter. he was smiling when he saw me. haha. at least he didnt give me a 'fed up' or 'aiyo, this girl again' face to me. then he helped me check through my letter n explained certain things to me too. hehe. God had sent another good person into my life to help me settle my problems. man, this is a serious problem u know...if i delay it somemore, i might won be able to graduate wan ok...phew ~ thank god~
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Thursday, April 3
april 3rd, 08yesterday was a hectic day. was sleeping till 4 am, then suddenly felt very cold. woke up for awhile n noticed that my sore throat is back. aiya. slept back n woke up again at 6 am. this time was really shivering. freaking cold la. not sure why. but my guess was fever again. off the fan n put on my socks. wanted to take panadols but cant cos i didnt spare any bread in my room. so, prayed hard till fell asleep n woke up at 7.30 am. no longer shivering but still having backaches.
quite worried bout this kind of situation. reminds me of the fever i used to have every month back in high school. man, that was scary. doctors said this is due to tonsilitis. so troublesome. when it comes, it wont go off easily. really have to take good care of the food i consume everyday. how wor... here in uni, everywhere is like a nasi kandar shop. chillis n peppers everywhere. wish can cook or something. really miss home cook food le. not to forget penang food toO... anyway, wil be going back soOn... =)
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